Definition: A man who discreetly has sex with other men while in a sexual relationship with a woman (CHEATING) is considered on the "down low" or "dl" for short. Often these men do not consider themselves gay or bisexual and their female partners have NO idea they have sex with other men, thus the term "down low" or "in hiding."
We live in the great city of Atlanta, GA, which for some reason is becoming the "flagship" area for Men on the Down low... This subject has become a much talked about one in this area of the Bible Belt. Tonight I had a chance to watch part of a compelling Documentary on Black Entertainment Television (BET) about... this very subject. It was actually a well put together piece of Journalism, primarily focused on the effects of this in Society today.
A couple of things which I immediately noticed about this documentary, was that it was primarily focused on the Black/African American Community... It really did raise several questions such as: Does this go on in White communities or communites of other races? What is this proclivity of the Men Cheating instead of leaving their spouse or significant other? Why put the one you care for at so much risk?
The show also showcased as a sort of anchor to the documentary J.L. King Author of On the Down Low: A Journey into the Lives of "Straight" Black Men Who Sleep with Men, who argueably was the first to break this "On the Down Low" phenomenon onto the scene on the Oprah Winfrey Show A SECRET SEX WORLD: LIVING ON THE "DOWN LOW".
Here are some of his thoughts:
"Why do I have to label myself to make you comfortable? …The act of the sex is homosexuality, but I don't want to get caught up in the whole gay culture, because the media and people look at gay people as being less than a man [in the black community]. The media has let white gay people feel more comfortable in their skin and it's accepted. The greatest taboo is to be black and homosexual, and I refuse to be labeled and classified that folks will look at me as something different. I am a man."
YEAH RIGHT!!! What kind of "Man" might you be??? Cheating on you Wife with other "Men" and don't stop there, he does not even do the "Manly" thing of leaving his wife, or telling her he is GAY, and possibly averting an even worse situation of possibly transmitting disease. I really can't see how he would call himself 1.) A Man and 2.) Not GAY???? And he tries to act like it's the fault of the "media" he is labeled in a negative manner!!! Well, let's not make this any more obvious, you put yourself in that situation, so you made the name for yourself. If you proport to call yourself a "MAN" then be one, don't just pretend to be a "MAN" and act like a "WOMAN"!!!
I can't stand this "I'm a victim" CRAP... I don't care where you stand, it's stinks from every angle!!!